As if its not real enough already, does the passing of little Cody this morning make the reality of Abbys situation even more *real* (for lack of a better word)?
Answer by Brent
In a word, no, Cody's death does not make death MORE real to us. Our heartfelt and inexpressible compassions go out to his family.
We are no strangers to the more difficult things in life, and the possibility/reality of Abby not surviving is testified to by the hundreds of thousands of kids who have preceded her in this battle. Countless children, even those whose parents are genuine Christians, full of faith and trust in God, have seen the Lord's will end up as "come home".
From the moment of her diagnosis there was no ambiguity or confusion about the possible outcomes, good or bad, just as there is no blurriness to the fact anyone of us could die in the next 60 seconds for scores of reasons.
When Abby was in the 90% percent survival group, we never forgot to be compassionate and accept that SOMEONE has to make up the 10% who don't make it. Now that Abby is in the 20% survival group, medically speaking, we've earned the right to remember that SOMEONE has to be in that 20%, and God could choose that for Abby. We pray that is the case. We have faith that it will be. However, we have MORE faith that God's will is the highest consideration, and that whatever occurs will be according to His perfect love and plan.
Another consideration is that when you already have a genuine conviction about Heaven and Eternity, death doesn't have to become "real" all of sudden. Graduating from this life to the next is already an established mindset. Going Home to be with Jesus is already REAL.
We've discussed from day one that the "worse" that can happen to Abby is that she will get to wait for us in heaven, and skip the hardships of this life. The "worse"? How's that the "worse"? We will be unbearably sad without her, but we don't consider her being with God "a tragic end". if God calls her home, we will have a bittersweet dawn without her, but then be reunited for an eternal dinner banquet in the blink of an eye.
If God's will is that she stays here: we win. If God's will is to grant her a "pass" from this hard life: we win. Either way, we win. That's what is "real" to us.