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Dec 27, 2010

Do You Have a "Victory Over Porn" Story?

I've finished my book on Internet Porn and realized that I've left out a most important part: HOPE. Not completely, but the kind of hope that comes from hearing the real stories of victory from real people is missing.

I want people to finish the book with the highest level of hope and anticipation of victory over the porn problem in their family or marriage. I've given steps, facts, ideas, strategies and advice. The perfect ending would be real stories about marriages, families, churches and individuals who have experienced victory over porn.

Would you send me your story? It can be the whole story, or just an inspiring statement that you have survived porn and so can others. It can be an encouragement that victory is possible, or an entire account that details how you got victory. Whatever you think will give HOPE to those currently being hurt by porn.

Your identity will be completely secret and even if you accidentally put something in your story that might give away a person's identity, I'll remove it.

Send your stories to: brent@brentriggs.com

I'm ready to publish this book RIGHT NOW... so if you could send your stories immediately, I'd love to get yours in the book.

More Abby Party Pics


Jill, Abby and Jill's daughter Jordon.

Jill and Jordon flew in from out of state to help Abby celebrate.
Jill is a nutrition and health guru. Vegan. No sugar, organic foods only kind of gal.
My family (Michelle) owns a cattle ranch. We want to eat healthier, have been
moving towards a healthier lifestyle but the Riggs and Samters are still oceans apart.

Jill couldn't have been sweeter or more encouraging.
She quietly made whatever food was offered work for her and Jordon.
Then, after the party, she spent hours answering our questions. The changes we
have made have already had a dramatic impact on our families health.
Thank you Jill. http://breakingfreetruths.blogspot.com/




Abby with her friends.




Rachel (and her sister Naomi) donated their hair to Locks of Love back when
Abby was sorely missing her long beautiful hair. The kids who donated hair hold a special place in Abby's heart. It was neat to see all three girls with their hair long and beautiful again.



Jill, Linda and me. Thanks to Jill, I have lost 15 lbs since this picture was taken!




Carol found Abby ultra talented face painter.
She was wonderful with the kids. Thank you for making Abby's day special.



Landis with his big brother, Dane. Dane is a great big brother.




Abby's cousin Hannah. Abby asks at LEAST once
a day if her cousins can come over. We love you Hannah!




Abby and her big brother, Dane.



Can you believe how long and healthy Abby's hair is?



We got a moon bounce courtesy of the church where
the party was held. We are so grateful for how kind everyone there was.



Abby and Jordon.

Dec 20, 2010

Party Pics & Brent's New Book On Knowing God's Will Now Available

From Brent

I actually published this book a couple of months ago and simply forgot to announce it. Something wrong with that... I'm getting old I guess.

The Guide To Knowing God's Will
The Guide That Teaches You How to Confidently Determine God’s Will in Your Life

Perhaps the most common question Christians have is “how do I know God’s will?”

• How do I know I’m doing what God wants?
• Will God approve of my decision?
• Is this the best decision I can make?
• Will God still bless me, care for me, protect me and
guide me if I make a decision that is not THE very
best in His eyes?
• Can I be secure in my decision?
• Does my life overall reflect that I know God’s will for it?
• Is my life being affected because I’m not in God’s will?
• I want to do what God wants but how can I know for sure?

There has been much written on the topic ranging from the overly simplistic to the useless wishy-washy. God did not create us only to leave us hanging without a way to know what He would have us to do. No, it’s not a legalistic “A-B-C, 1-2-3” checklist but I’m convinced it’s not nearly as ethereal as commonly thought… nor is it attainable only for the “super Christian”.

In this humble little guide, I will present to you principles, questions and of course, Scripture, that layout out a predictable groundwork that will help you know God’s will about the entire scope of life… the big questions, the little choices and the life changing opportunities that require a decision.

Get the eBook or Print Version here...

Abby Party Pics

Brent's camera got passed around at Abby's party and sometime early on the settings were accidentally changed. Fortunately Jill Samter saved the day. Thank you Jill!!!

Here are a few pictures from Abby's Kick Kemo to the Kurb Party. More to follow soon. Be sure to check out Jill's blog here.


Lynne from Polka Dots And Paisley made this beautiful outfit just for Abby.
Thank you so much for making Abby feel like a princess on her special day.

Brent gathered up all of the kids and teasingly told them that there was only
one goody bag. Abby said that it should be hers since she was the "birthday girl." After hamming it up with Abby, Brent dumped out enough goodies to please an army of munchkins.




Jordon Samter bought Abby and Naomi Smith a Baby be Blessed doll with money that she had earned. Abby loves having a baby that looks like her. It even has a special scripture embroidered on it.

The day before the party, Abby had a pretty rough day at the clinic (bone marrow aspiration and spinal) and Abby was still sore the day of the party. In some of the pictures you can read it in her eyes, but she is here and we are blessed.



Olivia found out about Abby when she was first diagnosed. She "adopted" Abby,
taking on the big sister role with enthusiasm. Olivia always knew just how to encourage Abby. Thank you Olivia. Olivia's parents drove to the party from Kansas. They intentionally arrived early in the day, rolled up their sleeves and worked right along side us as we got ready for Abby's special day. We love you guys! Thanks for blessing our family.




Abby is blessed to have so many wonderful friends.

Dec 10, 2010

Wow....

Wow... sadly, from the response to my last post, there are many marriages, families, individuals and churches hurting over this issue of internet pornography.

If you have experienced or witnessed the harm of pornography, would you take a few minutes and answer the questions on this TOTALLY ANONYMOUS page?

Yes, it will take a few minutes but you never know how many other may end up being helped, or might avoid the terrible consequences of pornography.

TOTALLY ANONYMOUS: http://gbrentriggs.com.gall.arvixe.com/pquestions.aspx

Pornograpy, Marriage and Families

I'm finishing up one of the most important books I think I'll ever write as it addresses something that is destroying individuals, marriages, families and churches: INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY.

I'm taking a very practical "advice" approach to the topic as much as already been written from a conceptual, cultural or "exposing the problem" viewpoint. In this book there will be things like:

  • How to find out if a computer has been accessing porn sites
  • How to block porn sites
  • The telltale signs that someone is involved in porn
  • How to confront someone who is looking porn (husband, wife [yes, wives are increasingly into it too], kids, friend, fellow Christian)
  • Practical ways to deal with someone in your life who is into porn
  • Practical ways to deal with YOURSELF if you are into porn
  • The real world destructive consequences of porn
  • The "secret scourge": how many Christians and "good" people are really into porn and hide it
  • What churches, families and friends should do to confront the porn issue and how to help people
  • How porn affects kids
  • How porn affects singles
  • How porn affects marriages
  • How porn affects individuals
  • Porn in the marriage bed
  • What God says about porn
  • What about the spouse who refuses to stop?

And more... I want to finish the book with real world stories, and answers to real world questions. This is where I need your help.

Can you send me:

  • Any questions you have about the porn issue
    • I want to have a very practical QUESTION & ANSWER section in the back of the book.
  • Any stories you have about how porn has affected your life, your marriage, your kids, your church or the life of someone you know.
    • These can be stories of both heartbreak or triumphant... stories that tell the truth about the DAMAGE of porn are just as effective as stories about gaining victory over it
    • Use fake names and locations and events in your stories...

No one will ever see these emails but me. Once I extract the content, I'll permanently destroy the email. You email address will NEVER be published, or included with anything you send in (question or story). If I feel like there are any facts in your story that might give away identity, I'll remove or change those (and I will assume you've already put in fake names, locations and events to hide identity).

Would you respond today and help me get this book ready? It will make a great "New Year's Resolution" book for many people (I'll be offering this as an eBook so people can get it discreetly too; this is quite a delicate issue).

Send questions, comments, suggestions and ideas for this book to me: brent@brentriggs.com

Dec 7, 2010

M E N, PAG and The Naughty List

From Brent

Our kids are so stinkin' funny. Almost every day they say something that we get a big laugh from. That's why our blog is called "Where Laughter Lives...". That's not some sentimental moniker; it really describes our life. Here's a couple of recent chuckles:

M E N

I took Landis to the bathroom in a restaurant. He is five. I asked him, "which door do we go in?"

He pointed to the guys door, and said "that one". I asked "why that one?"

Landis replied, "because it says M... E... N..." Landis is just now beginning to spell, so surprised, I quizzed him, "what does M-E-N spell?"

Landis looked up at me and said, "Adult Boys".

P A G

Continuing that theme, later I asked Landis, "what does your shirt spell?"

He looked DOWN at the shirt he was wearing, read the three letters across the chest, and said "PAG".

Hmmmm... what brand of shirt do you think it was? :)

The Naughty List

We were driving home and Abby saw some Christmas lights. "Christmas lights, Daddy!!! Look!!!"

I casually responded in keeping with our usual family humor (which the kids are all used to), "oh we're skipping Christmas this year. Didn't you get the memo?"

Abby never missed a beat and proclaimed with authority, "Daddy... I'm going to tell Santa and he's going to put YOU on the naughty list!"

Dec 3, 2010

The Party, The Flu, The Pics

Wow, I didn't realize it has been so long since we've posted. We need to get a bunch of the party pics up.

After Abby's party the flu traveled through our family, slowly wrecking havoc (still is). We are doing much better but it left us with two tired parents, some pretty bored kids and a mountain of unfinished work. Abby and Landis got it for few days. Then I got it. Then Brent got blasted for a whole week and was really out of the loop for a week. My bout has just drug out for a couple of weeks. But, Abby is doing great so we still smiling. Very thankful that our biggest challenge today is something "normal".

Thank you for loving Abby and praying for her. She LOVES not taking chemo. In her five year old mind, taking chemo meant not getting to drink from water fountains, not being allowed to sneak yummy bites of her siblings food. Her immune system was just too weak.

Tonight, I saw her dive on the floor for something yummy that Landis had dropped. She claimed the 5 second rule and popped it in her mouth (disgusting I know). When he objected she just wagged her head and said, for the hundredth time, "I am not on chemo anymore!"

Her doctor said Abby's immune system won't be normal for 6 months. I think the princess has a "dirt licking" plan to speed up the process.

I am sure Brent will do something phenomenal with the party pics when he is feeling better. I can't wait to see what he comes up with.

Nov 19, 2010

Done.

My name is Abigail Riggs.

I've been doing chemo for 986 days. I almost died a couple a of times. It's been going on for so long that I don't know much of any other type of life. I've made lots of friends and God has used my cancer to touch many lives.

I'm finished with chemo as of today. I still have a lot of recovering to do from taking rat poison for two and a half years. Taking poison to save your life... not something I had planned for Kindergarten.

Tomorrow I'm going to celebrate with many of you. The next day I'm going to start my new life without the label of "cancer". I've been blessed to have so many people love me and walk through this with me.

I hope you'll continue with me on this new journey too.

Nov 18, 2010

ONE

Abby's Chemo Countdown
Countdown until Abby is finished with chemo
(started at 986 days July 20, 2008 to November 19, 2010

Nov 17, 2010

Two...

From Brent

Abby is back at home. She's just a "normal" sick kid but seems to be much better today.

If you are coming to Abby's party, or thinking about it, be sure to read the end of this blog post.

Abby's Chemo Countdown
Countdown until Abby is finished with chemo
(started at 986 days July 20, 2008 to November 19, 2010
TWO more days!

Abby's story here


Abby started growing her hair and her health...


We will never forget our Make A Wish Trip...


Abby got to see so many wonders...


She enjoyed the entire experience with SpideyLandis...


And sat on a REAL alligator when all the other kids were too scared...


Played on the beach in Florida...


Beautiful olive brown skin...


At the Give Kids the World Village...


Her special day with Princess Jasmine...



It wasn't all roses though (sadly, it wasn't even half roses;
Abby still had lots of hospital stays and health scares)...


Wonderful friends sent her gifts...


Which she was excited about; can you tell?


Another winter came and went but this time she was out in the snow...


And the father/daughter dance...


And the art show...


And down in Austin with her special big sister Mattie...

Abby's Kick Kemo to the Kurb Party

Here's the list of blog friends from out of town that are coming to the party (if you are local or family, you don't need to be on this list. Basically, we just want to know how many people to expect):

Party Information:
  • When: 6:00-9:00pm next Saturday (Nov 20); come as you please but the prizes will be given away between 7:00-8:00pm

  • Where: Crosspointe Church - Hwy 9 & 24th Street (directions here)

  • Why: celebrating the end of 2.5 years of Abby's chemo and Leukemia

  • Details:

    • lots of finger food and desert to eat;

    • kid-centered, prizes given away to kids and adults;

    • games, activities, moon walk, fun for the kids;

    • casual dress, think of it as big fun party for kids

    • We especially want to recognize and say thank to everyone who was so kind and helpful to us during this difficult journey

Please RSVP with # of adults, and # of kids, so we can know how much fattening finger food and desert to buy as well as prizes for kids. For those of you who want to help:
  1. If you are local or will be here early and want to help with setting up, managing kids and activities or decorating, we will appreciate any and all help. Please email Brent and let him know your availability and he'll keep a list - brent@brentriggs.com

  2. IDEAS FOR FOOD, GAMES, ACTIVITIES & PRIZES: - Do you have suggestions for games, contests & activities for a truck load of kids for 2-3 hours of fun?
    - Do you have ideas for prizes that the kids can win, and what kind of contests, activities or event would give every kid a fair chance to win? The SIMPLER the better but we want it to be fun for the kids... we are trying to plan about an HOUR of time to give away the prizes; the rest of the time will just be free to play and have fun
    - Any suggestions for easy fun finger foods and deserts that we can buy and quickly prepare or set out?
Gifts for Abby We don't usually mention about people sending these things but so many people are asking, here is our answer: if you want to bring or send a gift, card, photo, poster, whatever... we will put them out at the party give them to Abby there. SUGGESTION: Abby really loves books now, and a childrens book (used is fine!) with a note from you would be perfect. She could collect and keep these to read to her own children, and help her remember all the wonderful people that loved her through this cancer. We know this is late notice, but send them to:

Brent Riggs
504 Morehead
Washington, OK 73093

One last thing... We are not exactly the best at planning parties and social events. People like Carol Bauman exist to plan world class parties. We're just simple folks from a hick town. If you have any ideas, suggestions, advice or epiphanies, could you email us and let us know. We appreciate any help and want this to be a great memory for Abby, but also a great time for all those who attend. brent@brentriggs.com

One last last thing... We aren't sending out official invitations. So many people have walked with us through this journey we KNOW we would miss someone and feel terrible. This is an open invitation to everyone who has loved Abby through her cancer treatment. You are invited. If you want to come, YOU ARE INVITED. No criteria, no conditions. YOU ARE INVITED, okay? We just want people to let us know they are coming so we can plan accordingly.


Nov 16, 2010

Three...

From Brent

If you are coming to Abby's party, or thinking about it, be sure to read the end of this blog post.

Abby's Chemo Countdown
Countdown until Abby is finished with chemo
(started at 986 days July 20, 2008 to November 19, 2010

Three more days!



There was some difficult things to deal with along the way...


Then there was some really difficult things...


And some hard times...


Incredibly hard times...


And agonizing times...


But through it all, Abby was Abby:


Always the camera hound...


Superstar even when bald...


Ready to flash that smile on command...


A flirt, flirt, flirt...


A friend to her friends...


Beautiful even with an inch of hair...


Still a big sister...


And did I mention cute?...

Abby's Kick Kemo to the Kurb Party

Here's the list of blog friends from out of town that are coming to the party (if you are local or family, you don't need to be on this list. Basically, we just want to know how many people to expect):

Party Information:
  • When: 6:00-9:00pm next Saturday (Nov 20); come as you please but the prizes will be given away between 7:00-8:00pm

  • Where: Crosspointe Church - Hwy 9 & 24th Street (directions here)

  • Why: celebrating the end of 2.5 years of Abby's chemo and Leukemia

  • Details:

    • lots of finger food and desert to eat;

    • kid-centered, prizes given away to kids and adults;

    • games, activities, moon walk, fun for the kids;

    • casual dress, think of it as big fun party for kids

    • We especially want to recognize and say thank to everyone who was so kind and helpful to us during this difficult journey

Please RSVP with # of adults, and # of kids, so we can know how much fattening finger food and desert to buy as well as prizes for kids. For those of you who want to help:
  1. If you are local or will be here early and want to help with setting up, managing kids and activities or decorating, we will appreciate any and all help. Please email Brent and let him know your availability and he'll keep a list - brent@brentriggs.com

  2. IDEAS FOR FOOD, GAMES, ACTIVITIES & PRIZES: - Do you have suggestions for games, contests & activities for a truck load of kids for 2-3 hours of fun?
    - Do you have ideas for prizes that the kids can win, and what kind of contests, activities or event would give every kid a fair chance to win? The SIMPLER the better but we want it to be fun for the kids... we are trying to plan about an HOUR of time to give away the prizes; the rest of the time will just be free to play and have fun
    - Any suggestions for easy fun finger foods and deserts that we can buy and quickly prepare or set out?
Gifts for Abby We don't usually mention about people sending these things but so many people are asking, here is our answer: if you want to bring or send a gift, card, photo, poster, whatever... we will put them out at the party give them to Abby there. SUGGESTION: Abby really loves books now, and a childrens book (used is fine!) with a note from you would be perfect. She could collect and keep these to read to her own children, and help her remember all the wonderful people that loved her through this cancer. We know this is late notice, but send them to:

Brent Riggs
504 Morehead
Washington, OK 73093

One last thing... We are not exactly the best at planning parties and social events. People like Carol Bauman exist to plan world class parties. We're just simple folks from a hick town. If you have any ideas, suggestions, advice or epiphanies, could you email us and let us know. We appreciate any help and want this to be a great memory for Abby, but also a great time for all those who attend. brent@brentriggs.com

One last last thing... We aren't sending out official invitations. So many people have walked with us through this journey we KNOW we would miss someone and feel terrible. This is an open invitation to everyone who has loved Abby through her cancer treatment. You are invited. If you want to come, YOU ARE INVITED. No criteria, no conditions. YOU ARE INVITED, okay? We just want people to let us know they are coming so we can plan accordingly.


Abby (right) at 8 months old with her friend Maria...
My favorite pic of Abby; one of my favorite pics of all time.