Some gracious brothers from our church came over today and helped me tear out the moldy bathroom. It took 4 of us about 3 hours. Not too bad. Taught me a lesson too...
Normally I just do all this kind of stuff by myself and it would have taken me 10-12 hours to do it by myself. But stubborn me would have done it because I don't like to inconvenience others or ask them for their time. Lesson: sometimes we have to humble ourselves and ask for help. The flip side of that is this: there are lots of people who would love to help, they just have to know there is a need. They can't know of a need, if no one asks.
Which brings me to another point.
Someone wrote a nasty comment criticizing us (and Christian bloggers in general) about "asking for stuff all the time", (ie. prayers, advice, help with adoptions, etc.). They characterized the Riggs family specifically as an example of moochers and beggars, always wanting people to "help" them. (Note: it's particularly interesting to be accused of this when my own friends have chastised me more than once recently for not asking for and accepting more help during this overwhelming situation)
Besides the obvious (why do you read our blog if you have that low an opinion of us or Christianity?) what they don't consider (or maybe know because we don't get on our blog and say "look what we did") is:
- How much of our own life, energy, emotions and time is given to help others (which is a considerable amount and that's all I will say about that).
- We are rabid believers in personal responsibility and never DEPEND ON or EXPECT help with an "I deserve" mentality that is so prevalent today. Anyone who has read our blogs or my books AT ALL knows we work hard, live modestly and invest our life in others.
- How many decades we've been the ones GIVING THE HELP (time, money, energy, advice, support, care, etc), and God has blessed us in return with support we need during this particularly difficult time of cancer for our family ("you reap what you sow"... sound familiar?)
We've come to realize that our blog friends have a wealth of great advice, experience and ideas... and you are totally unselfish with it. It would be stupid not to ASK you fine folks for your advice, suggestions and HELP (especially given the amount of times people have expressed their desire to help but just didn't know what they could do).
Since Abby got sick, we've solved problems, fixed things, accomplished things, and made a lot of this much less painful because of "help" (in all forms) from our gracious blogging and Christianity family. If that's "begging", then call me a beggar. If that's not Christianity and/or "goodness" in action, I don't what is. Perhaps "Anonymous" has neither given nor received the blessing of brotherly love where HELPING and receiving help is a way of life.
By the way, never hesitate to ask us for help. If we can we will. We always have.
Here was the mold on the drywall after we pulled the tile off the shower/tub. The drywall all the way around the tub area looked like this.
I’m wondering if this is why I’ve (Brent) been sick every 3-4 months for the past 3 years. I used to get “upper respiratory” about once every three years; now I get sick every 3 or so MONTHS like clockwork. We hope this mold removal will solve the mystery with Abby, and maybe be the end of my own chronic cycle.
Thanks so much to Meeksy, Evan and Scott for coming over today and making quick work of this mess. And a HUGE thank you to all involved in this project to help Abby; the mold testing, the ideas, the time, the materials, labor… we are SO blessed to have such wonderful friends.